I’m going to rant here for a moment. Is it just me? Am I the only one who is not a fan of women being referred to as bitches and hoes?
“I love my bitch”
How sweet, not! There is nothing sweet about some young guy referring to his girlfriend as his bitch.
Is it rap music that has this affect on our youth?
To think teen girls purchase and idolize the very music that refers to them as bitches and hoes. They date the teen boys that refer to them as bitches and hoes.
I for one think it is disrespectful. It is sad to see young women looked at as something only good for sex and worthy of no other respect.
I’m still trying to figure out when women started to find pleasure in being referred to as a bitch or hoe. If you know then please fill me in.
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Wrote: Jan 29, 2008 at 10:41 pm
I’m with you…I hate it too. So demeaning. When these young girls finally grow up they’ll be thinking differently. I’m so often so disappointed in this generation…I know I sound like an old feminist here…but in my day (lol) we had respect for ourselves & fought for that respect…and now these young girls are acting like guys…and reversing all the hard work done in previous years. Okay..that’s my rant. But I agree with you completely.
Wrote: Jan 30, 2008 at 1:21 am
I’m with you on this Rose. I abhor the terms myself and in fact, that term (ho) was being used freely on a so-called “humor” blog I used to read, granted they were discussing celebrity women and calling them these names (which may or may not be deserved), and I got a bit up in arms about it, and the next thing you know, I’m being called “a madwoman, scary and delusional” LOL. I’m glad to see someone else’s viewpoint on this. Great post!
Wrote: Jan 30, 2008 at 12:27 pm
If your premise is true, and I’m not sure whether it is, it may be some strange empowerment thing, such as the N word (a term I don’t use either) – own it and they can’t use it against you.
BTW, in this context, the singular spelling is ho.
Wrote: Jan 30, 2008 at 10:05 pm
Roger get with the times. Youth spell it hoe. lol (Check Urban Dictionary)
Paula why of course you were because you disagreed with them.
Drowsey please feel free to rant anytime.
Wrote: Jan 31, 2008 at 6:56 am
Rose – Actually, I did. And I’ve never seen hoe. I HAVE seen hos and ho’s(?).
bitches and hos
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Used often as an affirmative statement, or an exclamation.
Wendy: Did see Tiffany fall in the mud?
Sean: Bitches and hos!
Wrote: Jan 31, 2008 at 11:33 am
Then you obviously are not looking at the page I am. Here, allow me to give you a direct link to that page. Hoe. Also seen in the slang dictionary. Definition of hoe. Example: “She is such a hoe.” Another definition- hoe (plural hoes). (US, slang) Alternative spelling of ho. Do you care to continue to argue my spelling of hoe?
Wrote: Jan 31, 2008 at 4:17 pm
I’ll submit that there may be more than one school of thought.
But that ban on Santa saying “ho, ho, ho” doesn’t work nearly as well if the word is spelled like a garden tool:
Wrote: Feb 1, 2008 at 1:21 am
Rog that may be, but I think we are getting way off the original topic of the post and I really would like to get back on topic. Either way they spell it ho or hoe it is still offending to hear young men referring to women as hoes.
Wrote: Feb 2, 2008 at 5:01 pm
Hey Rose, that’s how me and my boys talk in the hood, not,:grin:
Wrote: Feb 3, 2008 at 5:51 am
Rose, I could not agree with you more. It is so degrading and low class.
A year ago or so, I observed at one of our local WalMart a kid calling his girl friend a b….h. I had both my children with me and we were standing in the next lane. As the conversation continued, he became even more aggressive. As it turns out, she wanted to break up with him an he was having a fit. He was threatening her as she hid behind one of her girl friends. He kept yelling, “Come here, you f…..g b…h.” I finally moved myself to that side and told that young teenage girl that she does not need to be talked to that way or be treated any where near this kind of behavior. I told the young man that he was way out of line and he needs to get a hold of himself. I flagged down a security person and as the girls started to leave. Once the security person was there trying to talk to this teenage boy, he fell apart and started crying and sobbing.
His aggression, by calling his girl friend all kinds of nasty names, turns out, was his own insecurity and fear of loosing her. He needs to go back and be taught how to keep someone by treating them with respect and care. This sort of thing happens way to often and it is sad.
Wrote: Feb 17, 2008 at 9:14 am
Nice comments above. I’m a 27 yo male, although I’m against this kind of behaviour just as you do, I would have to be honest to you that the nasty words sounded sexy in my head at first, and then I realized the inappropriateness to say it in non-sexual environment. As I have thought about it, I reckon its meanning differs from person to person.
More educated people will instantly pick up the downside part of its meaning, while less educated or mannered people will not. And I believe this is what happened with the youth today.
Teenages are in their summit of physical condition for sex. They thirst for exploring the realm of sex, thus the term ‘animal sex’ probably is the way teenages like the most to express their desire of sex. Those words come into play as activators to make ’sex’ animal and more exciting, that’s why they are so haunted by those words.
You’ll see the much less of these behaviours among higher educated people (at least educated in respect to this area).
The society has determined the meaning of these words (either from movie, or daily communications, it’s a historic development), and the reason behind is complicated. But we can’t change it easily. The best way is still through education.
Anyway, understand this, when kids say those words, they don’t perceive their meaning as the way we/you do. They sound only sexy to them rather than offending, while we educated people, sense differently.