For anyone who has lost a child, you know that the pain never truly goes away. We put the emotions to the back of our mind, as we go about our daily lives. Days leading up to the anniversary of our child’s death, and on birthdays brings those feelings of loss to the surface.
After 15 years listening to the song “tears in heaven” still makes me cry. I read something today with regards to the death of my daughter.
“No offense, but this happened a long time ago you said. Why are you holding on to it?”
Should I just forget my daughter? Should I not grieve her loss on the anniversary of her death? Why do we remember Sept 11th? We remember it because it was a tragic event.
The tragic death of my daughter, has been the most devastating events in my life and you never have true closure on the death of your child.
Doctors are human and everyone makes occasional errors, especially when under immense pressure. However, my daughter’s life could have been saved, by the doctor who took her from me on July 21st 1992, had he only admitted to his mistake before it was too late.
Please know that doctor negligence can and does lead to death.
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8 responses so far ↓
Wrote: Jul 16, 2007 at 10:19 pm
Rose, I lost my brother 8 years ago, it hit me hard, I will probably never get over it. Tears in heaven is one of my fav songs, I play it on the guitar all the time.
Wrote: Jul 16, 2007 at 10:42 pm
Bob, my condolences to your loss. It’s so easy for people to sit back and say, ” Get over it and move on…. There was nothing you could have done etc.”
Some people just don’t stop and thing before they type. I have wasted so much time today trying to explain my feelings to people who really don’t understand.
Wrote: Jul 16, 2007 at 10:55 pm
No one really “gets over” the death of a loved one. How we deal with it as time progresses may change, but it’s never forgotten. Holding onto it is exactly what you should do, without letting it affect your daily life.
How we deal with death is as important as how we deal with life. My condolences on your loss and I thank you for sharing.
Wrote: Jul 17, 2007 at 3:16 am
hi rose, i feel for you, i have a dear friend who just lost her second baby as well and it is natural to grieve for the loss when the death anniv comes, the other night i was talking to a couple and they shared with me how much sad they felt when they lost their first child, i love children and i just hope doctors out there learn to be more responsible…btw thanks for the comment and visit on my site my dream-zzz world ^^
Wrote: Jul 18, 2007 at 3:24 am
I’m so sorry for your loss. No matter how long ago it was, even wounds that heal leave a scar. God Bless.
Wrote: Jul 19, 2007 at 12:06 am
Oh my goodness Rose, I did not know.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Wrote: Jul 24, 2007 at 12:55 am
I lost my daughter July 10, 2007. It was unexpected and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I have alot of guilt and I really do not know what to do. I have put everything in the Lords’ hands. She left behind two beautiful children, a 4 year old daughter and a 9 year old son. The father is taking my granddaughter but my grandson is going to live with me; they have two different fathers’. I’m just worried about separating them. They will get to see each other every other weekend; but I’m still worried. Can anyone give me advice? I miss her so very much, she was not only my daughter, but, also my BEST FRIEND! Also my grandchildren are missing her, I try giving all the love and comfort I can; I just know that I cannot replace their Mother. She was only 25. Please pray for us to have the strength to go on. Thank you and God Bless.
Wrote: Oct 31, 2008 at 7:53 am
Dear Rose
I lost my daughter due to doctors’ negligence on August 1st. My beautiful Rachael left a heartbroken husband and three young children. I have never felt such pain and find it very difficult to deal with the fact that those doctors still have their wives and children and we have lost our beautiful, energetic, vibrant, loving Rachael