Comments on: Baby Loss – What not to say http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/ World Outside my Window is a blog about controversial topics, blogging, humor, daily life, and the world as I see it. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:57:08 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Hazel http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-29407 Hazel Thu, 19 Jul 2007 05:10:09 +0000 http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/#comment-29407 Yes, I know of this pain. I was told as i was being rushed to emergency with my first ectopic pregnancy - don't worry there will be no scar. NO SCAR?! Thank you for writing this list of what not to say. I hope it prevents other grieving mothers from hearing such insensitivity. Yes, I know of this pain. I was told as i was being rushed to emergency with my first ectopic pregnancy – don’t worry there will be no scar.

NO SCAR?!

Thank you for writing this list of what not to say. I hope it prevents other grieving mothers from hearing such insensitivity.

]]> By: jill http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-27693 jill Wed, 16 May 2007 14:57:35 +0000 http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/#comment-27693 We never really know how to react to death. Death of a parent or a child leaves the survivors empty. Only time will cover the hold, but the hole itself will always be there. Unfortunately most of us are clueless about what to say. Sometimes we should say nothing. We should just listen. We never really know how to react to death. Death of a parent or a child leaves the survivors empty. Only time will cover the hold, but the hole itself will always be there. Unfortunately most of us are clueless about what to say. Sometimes we should say nothing. We should just listen.

]]> By: Liz http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-27672 Liz Sun, 13 May 2007 15:57:16 +0000 http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/#comment-27672 We were getting ready to move house when I miscarried and the only thing my mother-in-law ever said was, 'Well, it would have been difficult moving if you'd been 8 months pregnant.' We'd have managed! Unfortunately people don't realise they can just say they're sorry and feel they have to say something cheering. We were getting ready to move house when I miscarried and the only thing my mother-in-law ever said was, ‘Well, it would have been difficult moving if you’d been 8 months pregnant.’ We’d have managed!

Unfortunately people don’t realise they can just say they’re sorry and feel they have to say something cheering.

]]> By: Steve Reichard http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-27666 Steve Reichard Sun, 13 May 2007 05:11:58 +0000 http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/#comment-27666 Well I have never lost a child so I can't relate to the pain that is inside your heart and those that have my friend I can say I'm always here for you anytime you need me though ((HUGS)) Well I have never lost a child so I can’t relate to the pain that is inside your heart and those that have my friend I can say I’m always here for you anytime you need me though ((HUGS))

]]> By: Neal http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-27664 Neal Sun, 13 May 2007 03:01:33 +0000 http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net/2007/05/12/baby-loss-what-not-to-say/#comment-27664 I agree with you 100 percent, when you don't what to say or you never had that experience yourself, the best policy is not to comment. Only another who has experienced such loss, truly understands what the person feels. It is a loss and there is no way that words like "it was meant to be" can comfort anyone. I've heard those words and they do sting, even though the people mean well who are saying them. I agree with you 100 percent, when you don’t what to say or you never had that experience yourself, the best policy is not to comment. Only another who has experienced such loss, truly understands what the person feels. It is a loss and there is no way that words like “it was meant to be” can comfort anyone. I’ve heard those words and they do sting, even though the people mean well who are saying them.

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