Let me start this post by saying, be careful of what you say, because while you think that you may be burning someone elses bridges with a nasty post you may just be burning your own.
This problem has been weighing heavily on my mind over the past few days and my husband has informed me that it is best to get it off my mind and then move on.
The rule that I live by is burn me once shame on you, burn me twice shame on me.
If you burn me once, you don’t get a second chance.
Recently I was taken advantage of by a fellow blogger. Now this person cannot see where they have done anything wrong. They cannot understand how I felt both wronged and offended by their actions.
As I ponder if I would make this post I decided that I would make it and then move on.
It is unfortunate that this blogger came to my husband and I numerous times for blogging advice and we gave it and then three months later we found our hands being bitten off and our bridge burnt.
I have always taught my children to be careful of who they burn bridges with because you never know when they will need that person again.
That’s a very valuble lesson don’t you think.
I hold no grudges towards this particular blogger or did I mean to offend them by speaking my mind and telling them how I felt wronged by their actions. I was mearly hoping they would understand that their actions were offensive and I had hoped that as adults we could have worked through any missunderstandings.
I’m upset by what took place, yet the damage has been done. I don’t wish to carry a baggage of bad feelings towards them, so I’m hoping that they will just move on as I am.
What goes around comes around and the bridge than you burn today may be the one that you have to cross tomorrow.
“We could learn a lot from crayons; some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, while others bright, some have weird names, but they all have learned to live together in the same box.”
Remember that quote when dealing with the blogosphere. Maybe perhaps we could all learn to live together.
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6 responses so far ↓
Wrote: Feb 2, 2007 at 11:52 pm
Doesn’t sound like a good situation
I don’t give people second chances.
Wrote: Feb 3, 2007 at 11:08 am
I have had a blogger problem also that did not set well with the things they said. It was all lies and very hurtful. But not to be one to air my anger aloud I have taken to making protected posts when I feel the need to clear the air. If someone really wants to know what I am upset about they only have to ask for the password to read it. That way I am not insulting others and I can limit who reads what I am upset about!
Wrote: Feb 3, 2007 at 11:50 am
Rose thanks so much for the kind comment you posted to my last blog.
My compliments on a beautiful blog you have created here…what a talent you have.
I hate to hear that someone “done ya wrong” as we say down here in Alabama. I’m glad you’re trying to deal with it and move on. Hanging on to it and letting that negative feeling stay with you for too long is a waste of our valuable time.
I TRY to live by the forgive and forget principle as it is freeing, but MAN that can be hard to do sometimes!
Thanks again for stopping by my blog. Have a great weekend.
Wrote: Feb 3, 2007 at 1:55 pm
Rose, you invest a lot of time looking for great blogs and new friends; more that most of us do. You are bound to run into more bad seeds but – you also DO find more great new friends! You never stop being helpful and nice even though this happens sometime so I’d say you always come out ahead of the game, even when someone does this kind of thing. You and Shawn just keep on doing what you do, OK? Even if you know that this is probably going to happen again sometime.
Wrote: Feb 3, 2007 at 2:36 pm
Teena it is not a nice situation at all. Let them have their say and tear me down for now they are doing the very thing they accused me and labeled me for, which makes them a hypocrites.
Debbie, I’m sorry to hear that you were hurt by rude things said about you. I do not feel the need to password protect my posts, because then it would look as though I’m trying to hide something or that I’ve done something wrong. As a friend I try to inform this blogger that they were indeed infringing upon copyright by not seeking permission to use images that were protected by copyright. They took offense and interpreted it as criticism, from then I was shunned from their clique and the blogs I had begun to visit on a regular basis. Now those bloggers no longer comment on my blog & have started to talk about me via email and IM. It’s amazing to me how quickly the blogosphere forms cliques. If they want to form a clique and live just for giggling, whispering and being a stereotypical blogger, that’s their choice. I would rather have one sincere comment on my blog then 20 comments from bloggers who were not sincere.
Sarch it is hard to forgive and forget, but I’m trying hard to. I think I’ll leave comments open on this for today & then I’ll turn comments off. Thank you for dropping by.
Wrote: Feb 3, 2007 at 3:15 pm
Peri, I never looked at it from that perspective before. I should not let a few bad apples spoil the bushel. You are a doll.